So many times we feel the need to justify /explain ourselves in situations to be acceptable or conform to societal norms. Every one has a basic need to belong and yours truly is no exception. However one of life’s true pleasures is to be you at all times. We find that the moments when we have truly lived are those moments when we done things in the spirit of love and at free will. Each day is a special gift from God and as is chalk and cheese, so we are as a people so different. Fearfully, uniquely and wonderfully made…
We need to accept each others differences, if we were all the same life would be too dull.
I came across a few of these in one of those chain letter emails that lists certain things that a woman should never apologize for and I have always been a strong headed woman all my life even in my girly days , so here is me. Forget it if you can think I can apologize for the following in random order.
- Over indulgence and impulse buying.
When im feeling low “I will have my cake and eat it”. I crave for anything sugary and will happily have lots of chocolate without a single care that I will have a break out thereafter. Forget diabetes, cellulite and all that. Don’t judge, a girl needs regular sugar and retail therapy. What happens after is irrelevant. If it imposes no life threatening result I will do it at my own peril.
· Im no superwoman
Yes we have been raised to perfect the art of multi-tasking. Be a mother, sister, wife, aunt, lover, friend, career-woman and still be me. In the ideal world im all that but accept that im not perfect, im only human. I may not cook like Jamie Oliver but at least appreciate that you will never go to bed on an empty stomach.
- My taste in clothes, food or anything for that matter
I get annoyed at this growing trend of fashion police, haters etc. What I choose to wear, eat or whatever is a personal decision. JBS and deal with it. I will repeat this again. Let it sink. I am fearfully, uniquely and wonderfully made. if you have a problem with my preferences , don’t make it my problem. That also includes taking risks and following my heart. Be still though, your opinion is greatly valued. Take note its only your opinion. Terms and conditions apply and the final decision rests upon …. ME.
On the same note, allow me to say if you ask for my opinion in anything, be prepared. Don’t go hating on me for being brutally honest and speaking my mind. Truth hurts sometimes but I will not live in guilt for telling it the way I see it.
“People come into our lives for different purposes, you blessed if you can realize that any given time, they have served their purpose and you need to let them go”. I will not apologize for having lots of friends - old and new, spending time with them, and time spent with myself
Change is inevitable. I will not apologize for the things I can’t change. While the past is a good place to visit, I will not apologize for my upbringing, failed past relationships and the like . All these are firmly rooted in my past, I can only learn from them.
What makes me me is my value system, my principles, my dreams, my passions and all. These have moulded me into the person I am. And because we are different as people these will vary, the sooner we all accept that our values, principles are all different , the more at peace we could be with each other. Acknowledge that my priorities could be mere options in your life.
Lastly I will not apologize for the blessings in my life. I will not apologize for the blessing my family is to me, my life, my obsessions, my relationships, my associates and my dreams. Im a believer in all things that do with love and God is love. A person should never apologize for what they have. You can question only my Maker for He is the source of everything, my livelihood.
Blessed to prosper – kipilo yaka buphile (its YOUR life, live it). be you at all times
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